The most famous Pope Leo, Leo X, was steeped in Plato.
The eminent Byzantine Greek scholar George Gemistos Plethon, who privately rejected Christianity, so admired Plato that he took the name ‘Plethon’. At the 1438-39 Council of Florence, he reintroduced Plato to the West as part of a failed attempt to repair the Great Schism between the Eastern and the Western Church and present a united front to the Ottoman Empire (Constantinople finally fell to the Ottomans in 1453).
While in Florence, Gemistos Plethon made an impression on the banker, politician, and patron of the arts Cosimo de’ Medici, who had, among others, commissioned the David of Donatello, the first freestanding male nude since antiquity. He persuaded Cosimo to establish an institute and informal discussion group, now known as the Platonic Academy of Florence, which, under Cosimo’s protégé Marsilio Ficino, went on to translate all of Plato’s extant works into Latin. Ficino seems to have coined the term ‘Platonic love’ [amor platonicus], which first appears in a letter that he wrote to Alamanno Donati in 1476. In 1492, he published a series of Platonic love letters to Giovanni amico mio perfettisimo [‘Giovanni my most perfect friend’], the poet Giovanni Cavalcanti.
Cosimo appointed Ficino as tutor to his grandson Lorenzo de’ Medici (1449-1492)—who, within his own lifetime, came to be known as ‘the Magnificent’. Lorenzo retrieved large numbers of classical works from the East and established a workshop to have them copied and disseminated. His circle of friends, which included the likes of Poliziano and Pico della Mirandola, supported the development of Renaissance humanism. His handsome brother Giuliano served as the model for Mars in Botticelli’s Mars and Venus, and Lorenzo also sponsored the likes of Ghirlandaio, Pollaiuolo, Verrocchio, Leonardo, and Michelangelo, who, for three years, lived and dined with him.
Lorenzo’s second son Giovanni rose to the papacy as Leo X (r. 1513-21). According to Alexandre Dumas père, Christianity under Leo ‘assumed a pagan, Greco-Roman character… Crimes for the moment disappeared, to give place to vices; but to charming vices, vices in good taste, such as those indulged by Alcibiades and sung by Catullus.’
After Giuliano’s murder in the Pazzi conspiracy, Lorenzo raised his illegitimate nephew, Giulio di Giuliano, as his own son. As the second Medici pope, Clement VII (r. 1523-34), Giulio approved Copernicus’ heliocentric model of the universe a century before Galileo’s heresy trial for similar ideas. He also commissioned works by Cellini, Raphael, and Michelangelo, including Michelangelo’s Last Judgement in the Sistine Chapel. What an ending, for a bastard orphan.
The space between us. — Michelangelo, The Creation of Adam (detail), c. 1508–12.
By Dr Neel Burton — Psychiatrist, philosopher, and wine writer; Fellow of Green Templeton College, University of Oxford; author of over twenty books.
Essay substantially revised on 26 August 2026.
Convicted murderer Peter Collins died of cancer after 32 years in a Canadian prison. In that time, he became a champion of prison rights, and made a short film called Fly in the Ointment about a prolonged period that he spent in solitary confinement:
Somehow, I felt [my wife’s] fingers on my leg. Shocked and excited, I opened my eyes only to realize it was a fly walking on me. I was greedy for human touch so I closed my eyes and pretended it was her fingers. I tried to stay perfectly still because I didn’t want to frighten the fly off and be left alone.
After that, Collins would bite his cheek and apply a mixture of his own blood and saliva onto his skin, to attract the flies that had become his only source of living touch.
The Need for Touch
Owing to smaller household sizes, greater migration, higher media consumption, longer life expectancies, and an increasing fear of touch, people today are more corporally disconnected than at any other time in human history.
Just like we crave food when we are hungry, or crave sleep when we are tired, so we crave touch when we are lonely—for, at least historically, to be alone is to be exposed and vulnerable.
Notice the ancestral wisdom transmitted through language. When someone is out of our social orbit, we do not say that we are out of sight, but out of touch; and we feel that we ought to reach out and make contact.
More than a mere superfluity or indulgence, human touch is, like food and sleep, a visceral need that is increasingly being met by third parties such as hairdressers, massage therapists, and even professional cuddlers. Maybe this is why the hug has been gaining ground over the simple handshake. Recently, a 21-year-old dinner guest I had never met greeted me with a hug, when, previously, a handshake and bottle of wine would have been more expected.
During the covid lockdowns, it was not so much that people were lonely, since they could still interact at a distance or remotely, but that they could not physically touch one another, not even to shake hands. People who lived on their own may have gone for several months without any human touch at all—leading, among others, to a surge in demand for puppies. A video call, AI chat, or pornography might alleviate loneliness, but no amount of technology could satisfy or abolish the need for touch.
Is Touch Taboo?
As a wine taster, I used to think that smell was the most neglected of our senses. But in our society, touch is even more so, because more taboo.
In the 1960s, Sidney Jourard, a psychologist at the University of Florida, observed the behaviour of couples in coffee shops around the world. He found that, in the space of an hour, couples in Puerto Rico touched each other 180 times. This compared to 110 times in Paris, just twice in Florida, and not at all in London. Jourard also found that French parents and their children touched one another three times more than their American counterparts.
The fear of touch in northern, Anglophone countries is deep-seated. In Victorian England and nineteenth-century America, people took to the language of flowers, or floriography, to fly feelings that could not otherwise have flown. In a book on child-rearing, first published in 1928, the influential American psychologist John B. Watson (made famous by his Little Albert experiment) advised:
Never hug and kiss [your children], never let them sit on your lap. If you must, kiss them once on the forehead when they say goodnight… In a week’s time you will find how easy it is to be perfectly objective with your child and at the same time kindly. You will be utterly ashamed at the mawkish, sentimental way you have been handling it.
Still today, many people flinch if the person returning their change accidentally brushes their hand. Maybe that is why the hug greeting is gaining ground, as a kind of legitimate pretext for properly touching someone—albeit only twice per visit.
Men and Touch
The fear of touch is generally much greater in men. Touch is seen as soft and effeminate, and many men are keen to appear macho or at least masculine. With women, they worry that their touch will be interpreted as a sexual advance. With other men, they fear that it will raise questions about their sexuality, or that it will feel awkward, or that it will be rejected, or that they might enjoy it a little too much. With children, they fear that it might raise suspicions of paedophilia—especially now that many schools operate a strict no-touch policy. I recently visited my old school in Switzerland, a once noble building which, with all its new fences and barriers, now looks like a prison. What a time to be young!
So with the exception of handshakes and the occasional awkward ‘man hug’, men must forego touch, especially warm, intimate touch, simply to reassure everyone, and perhaps also themselves, that they are decent, manly men.
As they take their first steps out of the warm embrace of their parents, boys might try to meet their need for touch through rough interaction with other boys. Probably, that’s what all the punching at aforesaid school was about. As they grow older, they may, often out of sheer desperation, fumble into a relationship, putting all their physical needs into the hands of just one other young and inexperienced person.
This puts a lot of pressure on their partner and relationship, and reinforces the link, and ambiguation, between touch and sex. But the two are not the same. Our libido can be assuaged with our hand in a way that our craving for touch cannot: as every sex worker knows, many people who think they are hungry for sex are in fact hungry for skin. But it is possible to separate the two, even with people to whom we feel sexually attracted.
The Benefits of Touch
To undermine the taboos surrounding it, I’m going to build a positive case for touch.
Touch is the most primitive of all the senses. It is the first sense to develop in utero and is already present from just eight weeks of gestation. With a surface area, in adults, of around two square metres, our skin is the largest organ in our body.
In a controversial experiment of the 1950s, the psychologist Harry Harlow offered maternally deprived infant rhesus macaques a choice between two inanimate surrogate mothers made of wire and wood: one bare, and the other covered in cloth. The monkeys preferred the cloth-covered surrogate to the bare one, even when the bare one carried a bottle of food.
In 1994, the neurobiologist Mary Carlson, one of Harlow’s former students, travelled to Romania with the psychiatrist Felton Earls to study the effects of severe deprivation on the decretei children who, in the years of Ceausescu, had been abandoned to understaffed orphanages. Typical findings included muteness, blank facial expressions, social withdrawal, and bizarre stereotypic movements—behaviours very similar to those observed in socially deprived primates.
More recent studies have reinforced the developmental importance of childhood physical contact, which has been associated with, among others, better performance on cognitive and physical tests, a stronger immune system, and reduced aggression. All other things being equal, premature infants that receive a course of massage therapy gain a lot more weight and spend less time in hospital.
It is possible, quite literally, to ‘hug someone better’. In adults, the benefits of touch include: reducing stress, lifting mood and self-esteem, strengthening interpersonal bonds, improving cognitive function, and boosting immune function. These effects are mediated by hormonal changes, not least a reduction of the stress hormone cortisol and a surge in the ‘love hormone’ oxytocin. Seen in this light, the kiss on the forehead or the hurting part is much more than just a kiss.
The benefits of touch accrue to the giver as much as to the receiver, for it is impossible to touch without also being touched: people who give out ‘free hugs’ in public places are, of course, also having their hugs returned.
Even self-massage reduces stress levels, which helps explain why we are constantly touching ourselves: wringing our hands, rubbing our forehead, brushing our hair and scalp, stroking our neck and upper back, and so on. But as Peter Collins knew only too well, self-touch is not the same as the touch of another.
Compared to children, adults are less dependent on touch, but older adults, who tend to be more alone, more vulnerable, and more self-aware, are likely to need considerably more skin contact than their younger counterparts—which is why, sometimes, my elderly patients won’t let go of my hand. Therapy animals have become common in care homes, and, despite a lifetime of inhibitions, residents can be encouraged to hold hands or rub each other’s shoulders.
The Uses of Touch
Just as we use speech and gestures to communicate, so we use touch. Words can say, ‘I love you’, but touch can also say how and how much, and, at the same time, ‘I respect you’, ‘I need you’, and ‘thank you’. For a long time, scientists thought that touch served merely to emphasize a verbal message. But now it is clear even to them that touch can be the message, and that it can be more nuanced and sophisticated than either speech or gestures, and more economical to boot. What’s more, touch is a two-way street, and a person’s reaction to our touch can tell us much more than their words ever could. Finally, while words can lie, or be taken for granted, primal touch is much more difficult to ignore or discount. Lying to someone while holding their hand is psychopath territory.
No surprise, then, that touch can also serve to convince and motivate, so long, of course, as it is natural and appropriate.
One study found that two-thirds of women agreed to dance with a man who touched them on the arm while making the request; but when the man kept his hand by his side, his success rate fell by as much as half.
Students who, upon returning a book, had their hand brushed by the librarian reported higher levels of satisfaction with the library and life in general, even when the touch went unnoticed.
NBA teams with players who touched one another more, for instance, by high-fiving or hugging, went on to win more games, with the more tactile players performing best.
Pupils who had been touched by a teacher tended to participate more in class activities (shame about those no-touch policies); patrons who had been touched by a waitress tended to tip her more generously; shoppers who had been touched by a store greeter tended to spend more time in the store…
As a psychiatrist, I try to shake hands with all my patients and often use comforting touch in moments of distress—almost invariably to good effect. Touch relaxes the patient, makes her feel that she has been seen and heard, and builds a bond of trust. It makes her, and me, feel more human, and, as a result, I think, we remember each other.
In another essay, I argued that all love consists in reaching out beyond our own being towards those things that lend purpose, weight, and meaning to our lives. Touch is the physical expression of that reaching out, when the boundary between self and other ceases to separate and begins to connect. This explains why touch is taboo, and why we do not want to be touched by just anyone.
In Michelangelo’s Creation of Adam, God and Adam reach out towards each other, their fingers separated by the smallest of gaps. Everything is contained in that space: separateness, yearning, anticipation, connection, and the very spark of life. It is, after all, through the most absolute touch that we all came to be.
Continue Exploring
If you enjoyed this article, you might also look into For Better For Worse, an unconventional exploration of romantic love, marriage, and lasting relationships. For a broader exploration of love, desire, jealousy, and the emotions that shape our lives, see Heaven and Hell: The Psychology of the Emotions.
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